Relationship Counseling
In-Person & Virtual
in St. Louis and throughout Missouri
Do you feel disconnected from your partner and are unsure about
how to move forward in your relationship?
Maybe it feels like the “spark” has faded and you no longer experience emotional or physical intimacy in your relationship; or perhaps you find yourself feeling alone even when lying right next to your partner. You each feel misunderstood and are struggling to show up for each other in the ways you each need. You’re feeling disappointed, hurt, and lonely and you each yearn for a stronger bond and partnership.
As a result, you may be:
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Arguing constantly without any satisfying resolution to your disagreements.
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Ruminating about your problems such that it is interfering with work, parenting, self-care, or other important relationships in your life.
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Looking outside the relationship to feel satisfied and have your needs met.
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Considering dissolving the relationship because you feel hopeless for change.
Relationship counseling can help.
It may feel impossible now, but you can learn how to stop hurting each other. You can rebuild trust and engage in ways that leave you both feeling loved and supported. You can have the kind of partnership you envisioned during the early stages of your relationship. And I can teach you how to get there.
In working with me, you will:
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Understand how your own individual histories and life experiences play out in your relationship with your partner, which can lead to greater compassion for yourselves and for each other.
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Move past maladaptive ways of responding to uncomfortable emotions that are triggered by conflict and learn how to manage conflict effectively.
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Learn how to communicate your needs so that your partner can respond with genuine care.
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Restore emotional and physical intimacy.
Common questions about relationship counseling...
What can we expect from our counseling sessions? I begin the process with a thorough assessment of (1) your relationship history and relevant individual histories, (2) each partner’s concerns about the relationship and their perspectives on what is contributing to the problems in the relationship, and (3) what the couple hopes to get out of therapy. From there, I work collaboratively with each couple to establish immediate and long-term goals for therapy and will provide a framework for understanding what you can expect from the process moving forward.
How do I know if relationship counseling will work for me and my partner? Relationship counseling will work for couples who show up with the intention to improve their relationship by taking deliberate action toward enhancing communication and responsiveness to each other. When partners come into therapy with the goal of “changing” their partner, success is not likely. However, my experience in working with couples over the years has made clear that when each partner is willing to take responsibility for how they are contributing to the problematic dynamic in the relationship and then make relevant changes, remarkable transformation occurs.
Can relationship counseling help if we are in the early stages of our relationship and simply want to learn skills for maintaining connection moving forward? Absolutely! For couples who don’t necessarily require healing, but instead want to build a solid foundation at the outset of their relationship, I can teach you the necessary skills and strategies for fostering continued connection and partnership to ensure a lasting love and commitment to each other.
How do we get started? Simply click on the link below to learn how to get in touch with me. We’ll schedule a free, no-obligation 15-minute phone consultation so that I can learn more about your needs and answer any initial questions you may have. If we decide that I’m a good fit for you, we’ll go ahead and schedule your first appointment.
Monica Mills, M.A., LPC
222 South Meramec Avenue, Suite 301
St. Louis, MO 63105
email: monica@monicamillscounseling.com
phone: (314) 283-9753